Some Kids Are Imps and Some Parents Are The Problem

December 23, 2009 — I have helped raise a few kids in my day. I have done some good things in doing so and then there were some things I did not do correctly. I don't recall being a parent that was constantly haranguing my children about this, that, or the other thing. What I mean here is that it is always important to teach a child what is right and wrong and what is and is not acceptable behavior. Correcting a child or haranguing them for being a child however is not important nor the thing to do and it absolutely irks me to no end when I see a parent do that.

I very recently encountered a parent that harangues his children just because that what the child is doing at a particular moment irritates them. The children were just being...well children...playing outside and having a good time. Maybe it was that they were laughing too loud or running too fast or climbing into the back of a parked pickup...it irritated this parent and he had to correct them at every move. Earlier the parent had mentioned that his "demon" child was back from a week long visit to his Aunt's house. This child is certainly not a demon, an imp sometimes and what child isn't, and I know that the parent does not really think of the child that way. It was just the parents way of saying that his vacation from not having to feel the need to constantly correct the child was over. This parent needs to go take a long look in the mirror and he will see where the problem lies.

Another issue arises here that just irks me. When I have talked with this parent about child rearing, I have often times heard "...my Dad was that way and therefore that's the way I am." The next time I hear this I am going to ask this parent or whoever that if their father had been Jack the Ripper would they feel a need to be Jack the Ripper II. I can't tell you how many times I have heard this and it makes me sick. Come on parent take responsibility for your own actions and don't hang the blame on your Dad or your Mom. What a cop out!

We all have the right and responsibility to raise our children. Hopefully we do so in a solid family manner and give emphasis to good moral and social behavior. The parent I have been describing certainly has that capability and does some things as a parent really well. I just hope they will let their children be children and do less haranguing on them just because it irritates them...it's what really matters!